Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Don't Let The House Fool You

While enjoying pintrest lately, I have noticed a influx of things like this...

Excuse The Mess, The Children Are Making Memories - Distressed Wooden Sign 9" x 9"
photo from pintrest

AMEN! Its a home, not a museum!! These floors are carpet and hard wood, not gold!photo from pintrest

Please Excuse The Mess Our Family is Making Memories on Etsy, $50.00
photo from pintrest

Please excuse the mess, we are busy making memories.
photo from pintrest

I mean, this type of thing is everywhere! Aren't they cute? Sweet little sentiment really. No harm in having them hanging in your house, because they are incredibly cute and show a sweet picturesque illusion of family right?

Let me tell you what I see when I look at these. I see a tiny bit of judgement. Nothing major, nothing detrimental, just a hint of it really.

I feel like these quotes have a harsh subtext, silently saying...

"Hey Mom with the clean house, your kids are miserable. You don't love them as much as the Mom who left those Cheerios under the table. Your kids are not as important to you as the Mom who has laundry scattered around the house waiting to be washed and put away. You are no fun and your kids deserve a Mom who overlooks dust and fingerprints while devoting every waking moment to playing with them. You are less of a Mom than the Mom who just kicks toys aside instead of picking them up. You can't be a good Mom because you have a clean house."

You are rolling your eyes. I know. Go ahead, but when you are done thinking I am overreacting let me finish.

I am the Mom with a clean house. I am not patting myself on the back by any means, nor am I judging those who don't have the same level of cleanliness in their home, we are all individuals and our homes are an extension of that. But why is it okay for people to say things to me about how clean my house is? Would you walk into someones messy home and say "Woah! This place is a wreck!". No, it would be rude. All I want you to see is that sometimes when you bring up just how clean someones home is and how you can never keep your house that clean, it can come off just as rude. It is not a bad thing to have a clean home. The people out there with spotless homes are not freaks. It can honestly be just as embarrassing to have a clean house as a super messy house. I believe that wholeheartedly.

Mom with the clean house, it's okay! You are just as good of a Mom as the Mom with a messy home! You kids are just as loved and are making just as many memories! Don't feel guilty about taking good care of your home! The Mom with the messy house and the Mom with the clean house can BOTH be AMAZING! Are you pointing your little ones towards Jesus? Well then does it really matter if the house is messy or clean? Absolutely not!

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] Love the Lordyour God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.  

Deuteronomy 6: 4-9

Now I am not trying to bash those with a messy house with this, but for those Moms out there with a clean house.... this is for you!

Clean house, messy house, fancy house, plain house, big house, small house.... no matter what your house is like, go enjoy it!!!! 

Sunday, January 12, 2014

A Sign

It was just another day. Just an ordinary, run of the mill day. The kids were destroying the house playing, the laundry was running, the the morning dishes were still waiting for me to clean them. Just another day. I took a moment to put in some jeans and a shirt that was less t-shirt than the one I was currently wearing. I proceeded to put on just enough make up to feel human look refreshed. 

Enter Jayce.

"Mommy, are we going to church?"

Enter epiphany. 

Apparently I need to put real clothes on and fix my make up way more often

Kids. They say the darnedest things. Where does the honesty go I wonder? 

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Make a Resolutions to not Live by Resolutions

We all do it. Every year we sit down and figure out what our resolutions will be. People have started to catch on to the fact that resolutions are forgotten shortly after being written and it has started a new trend. Now everyone is picking one word to focus on through the year. Perhaps it will work... or perhaps it will become another resolution disaster.

I have done both. For years I have made traditional resolutions and for a year or two (it escapes me at this moment) I have picked a word to live by. I did not feel as though either was better or worse for me personally. I have had great success with both, while also failing at them as well.

So whats really going to work? What will actually keep people focused and dedicated? I am convinced nothing. Why? Because life is hectic, that's why. Because we change, day by day. Because our life is in a constant state of transformation, no matter what limitations we put on it in January.

I don't beat myself up if I don't keep my resolutions down to the letter, or at all for that matter. I don't loose sleep over not letting one word change my life in a mere 365 days.

Life is a learning experience. Don't put your growth in a box. Instead, let it stretch and have the freedom to change with you.

Perhaps a monthly journal would help. Each month you could jot down how you grew, what God has shown you or a lesson He taught you. Then in January 2015 you can look back and see how much growing and changing you have done. Is change and growth only acceptable if you predicted it the year before? I should think not.

Now I do think having goals for the year is great, don't get me wrong. I am not bashing on people who pick a word to focus on, or people who list out their resolutions for the year.  Personally, I have a few categories that I use to make my goals for the year (financial, physical, spiritual, relationships).  I try to limit myself to 1 or 2 goals per category (written very short and concise). So there you are, proof I am not shaking my finger at all you out there making resolutions, I am simply asking you to take a different look at the traditional route for a moment.

Just live. Enjoy every moment of the life God has blessed you with. Don't get so hung up on what you have in store for your year that you are not able to enjoy what God has in store for you. Let that be your resolution.